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Welcome everyone to another episode of Be the Light. I’m your host Rita Phillips, and today our topic is toxic feminism.
You know much has been made in recent years of a fake syndrome called toxic masculinity. According to feminists, toxic masculinity includes traits such as avoidance of emotional expression, a desire for physical, sexual, and intellectual dominance, and the methodical devaluation of women’s opinions, bodies, and sense of self. Boy that’s a mouthful. In other words, what is being described is what used to be known as a boor or a cad. You know, knuckle dragging neanderthals who grunt, find a woman they want, and drag her by the hair to their den for aggressive sex. I’m exaggerating of course, but there are always bad apples in every group and men are not immune to this.
That said, most women do not want the new version of men that feminists tout as exemplars. Most women want a man who is confident, strong, verile, and gentlemanly. And yes, we don’t mind when men cry when appropriate, but we don’t want a weak, man-bun wearing, pajama boy who just takes orders when the nearest female tells him to jump. That, too, is a bit of an exaggeration, but you get the picture.
Regardless, we are here today to discuss toxic feminism, so let’s go. Interestingly, I noticed there were many videos on Youtube about toxic femininity after the Gillette commercial aired recently on toxic masculinity. However, I don’t think acting too ladylike is the problem. I think a radical form of feminism is the problem.
A Little History
As I generally do, I want to go back in time a bit. In the 1960s, I was in grade school, and I remember watching on our little black and white TV women burn their bras as a protest to what they viewed as things impeding their freedom. Those who didn’t burn their bras, refused to wear them, claiming they were not natural and were a device men had made to curtail their freedom. Other items thrown in trash cans (also known as freedom cans) were curlers, girdles, tweezers, and high heels. This helps explain why so many feminists appeared unattractive. Just saying.
Now keep in mind, I was in 3rd, 4th, or 5th grade while this turmoil was going on and I recall thinking, “This is stupid.” I actually agreed with equal rights and equal pay. I still do, and I don’t think any woman or man, for that matter, in the 21st century disagrees with this. Women today have both. We have female wrestlers, female football players and referees, female combat pilots, and female welders just to name a few occupations formerly reserved solely for men. Fantastic! That’s what women want, right?
Equal Opportunity or Equal Outcome?
And regarding equal pay, women do get equal pay for equal work. However, the reason stats don’t show that is because many women, admirably, decide to take maternity leave when they have children, or work part time, once again admirably, to spend more time raising their kids. It generally is not an evil scheme by men to hold women back. What these radical women want is not equality, they want equal outcome. You know as a high school teacher, I had a sign above my door that I would constantly point to. It read: equal opportunity, not equal outcome. Students had the same opportunity in class to learn from me and to get help from me. Some used this opportunity well and some squandered it. Therefore, the outcome was not the same for each student.
Let’s apply this silly feminist notion of equal outcome to society. At this point I am going to introduce you to Jordan Peterson, a Canadian clinical psychologist and professor of psychology at the University of Toronto. In recent years, he has been making a lot of waves because he rebuts feminism succinctly and is urging men to reclaim their power. Let’s watch Peterson destroy the notion of equal outcome in society.
So, do women really want to artificially change that so that there are equal numbers of women working dangerous jobs, an equal number of women in prison, an equal number of female plumbers, and an equal number of women working outside jobs? I think not. I read a quote recently which really applies here. “Feminists want the power of men, the privilege of women, and the responsibility of neither.” I think that about sums it up.
4 Toxic Feminist Demands
All that having been said, I simply have to ask: What in the world are these feminists screaming about? Well, as I see it, here are their main issues. They want abortion on demand. They want to get rid of the patriarchal society. They want free birth control and tampons. And, they want the freedom to not marry and still have children because in their view, a man is only needed as a sperm donor.
Abortion on Demand
Okay, let’s begin by discussing abortion on demand. Roe v Wade was a Supreme Court decision, wrongly decided, in 1973, which put the rights of the mother above the rights of the unborn child. Initially after the decision there were no restrictions placed on abortion, but thankfully today we have a few. Some of those include requiring a woman seeking an abortion to view a sonogram prior to the procedure, requiring abortion providers to have admitting privileges at nearby hospitals, and restricting abortions to the first and second trimester (in some states). Unfortunately, it is these restrictions and requirements that so anger the feminists. They and Planned Parenthood are at the forefront of the yearly women’s marches where you will see women hoisting up signs with the following sentiments: Keep Your Laws Away From My Uterus, We Will Not Be Marginalized, GOP: Get Your Hands Off Our Women, and Probe Banks, Not Women. Leave it to leftists. They do everything with class, don’t they? They will not be satisfied until they are able to kill their own babies at any stage of development. Some on the left have even advocated post birth abortion which will will discuss in another podcast.
Of course we know that God creates life and we can find these words in Jeremiah 1:5: “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart…” Life is precious and is a gift from God, but these delusional feminists still want to destroy a baby that they feel, that’s kicking inside them, and they tell themselves the lie that the baby is just a clump of cells and tissue. I wonder if this is the reason Planned Parenthood and feminists don’t want those entering abortion facilities to view a sonogram of the miracle happening inside their bodies. Hmmm….
No Patriarchal Society
All right, let’s take on the patriarchal society. You know, the way these feminists come unhinged about this topic, one would think we were living in the 1950s. Nothing could be further from the truth. Let’s begin with the definition of patriarchal society. It is defined by feminists as a system that consists of a male-dominated power structure throughout organized society and in individual relationships. It’s true that most western societies began this way, but today I believe the notion that men are in charge of everything and have all the power is hyperbole.
I recently watched a Jordan Peterson interview, and I love the guy. He is fearless, unapologetic, factual, and correct. That’s why the left hates him. Let’s watch to him take on the so-called patriarchy in society today.
I have to repeat his final sentiment: Where’s the patriarchy? We also need to see what the word of God has to say about this thorny subject. Ephesians 5:23-25 tells us, “For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.”
Those are powerful words and to some fighting words. I remember I used to bristle about this passage and its meaning because it wasn’t clear to me. And, I believe it has been misused by some men to lord power over their wives. But it all boils down to pride and humility. Jesus who was God humbled himself and went willingly to the cross to save us from our sins. He submitted himself to his Father for our sake. The word submit doesn’t mean obey; it means to defer respectfully. It’s sad to hear how toxic feminists view marriage. Let’s listen to toxic feminist Julie Bindel discuss her views of marriage.
And, as far as dominance goes, let’s remember what Genesis 1 tells us about man, woman and dominance. Verse 27 says, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created him; male and female created he them.” So, God created both men and women in his image; that seems equal. Further, regarding dominance verse 28 explains, “And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.” I believe God intended from the beginning that both man and woman have dominion or dominance, if you will, over the earth to subdue it from the enemy, Satan. The fruitfulness, of course, meant to produce children, but I also believe it meant to produce the fruit of the Spirit, which is rooted in love. As I’ve said before, I’m not a theologian, so if you are wiser than I am and have some insight here, please send me a voicemail which you can easily do on my website Be the Light Daily. I’d be happy to play your comments.
Birth Control & Tampons?
Moving on, another toxic feminist complaint is that insurance companies do not pay for their birth control and that their tampons are taxed. Okay, let’s break this down. According to Planned Parenthood, birth control pills cost between $15 to $50 a month. So yearly, one could expect to pay between $160-$600 a year for the privilege of having sex without the consequences of pregnancy. Does that seem like a burden to you? Does that sound like something an insurance company should pay for? Let’s listen to Sandra Fluke, attorney and women’s rights activist, explain the horrible plight of not being able to afford birth control pills because insurance companies are not paying for them.
After listening to Ms. Fluke, I’m sure you’ll agree with me that she tends to exaggerate about the cost of birth control, and provides examples of hardships that most women just don’t face.
Now regarding the so-called tampon tax. Feminists claim it is unfair to tax something females need like feminine pads and tampons because they are not luxury items; they are necessities. I hate to break it to these toxic fems but many states tax both necessities and luxury items. Once states start exempting certain necessities like feminine hygiene items, you can expect other groups to seek exemptions for what they deem necessities. In addition, feminists seem to be suggesting that there is a special tampon tax on feminine products, but that is absolutely not the case. They are simply a product like every other product which is subject to a sales tax in states that have such taxes. Assuming feminists get their way and feminine products become exempt from sales taxes, it would mean a loss in revenue to the given states, making the tax base smaller and leading to an increase in sales tax rates to generate the same amount of revenue. So, let’s say you live in a state that has a 7% sales tax and now feminine products have an exemption, to retrieve the lost revenue, said state would now have to raise the tax rate to a 7.5% or 8% sales tax. That doesn’t sound appealing to most fiscally concerned citizens or those who think we are already overtaxed.
No Fathers Needed
What about the proposition by many feminists that children don’t need fathers, and in fact, that they would be better off being raised by a single mom or a lesbian couple? Think this sounds crazy? Me too, that’s why I call this toxic feminism. Peggy Drexler, an assistant professor of psychology and psychiatry at Cornell University, is a fervent advocate for “normalizing single motherhood and lesbian parenting.” Her 2005 book is entitled Raising Boys Without Men: How Maverick Moms are Creating the Next Generation of Exceptional Men.
Here’s a gem from her book: “An increasingly large number of children are being raised by mothers who are single and who have not divorced a husband or been abandoned by a man; these mothers are single by choice and have made a conscious decision to have a baby and find a sperm donor to do it. Lesbian couples and single mothers by choice are pioneering new ways of getting pregnant via donor insemination.” You see that folks! Men are not needed as fathers, just as sperm donors. Celebrities like Melissa Etheridge popularized this notion when she had two kids fathered by rocker David Crosby.
Author Drexler claims there are as many as five million lesbian mothers currently raising children in the United States. Obviously for her book, Drexler spent hours on research including interviewing moms and their sons. Unfortunately, however, her research seems tainted in that she is a proponent of lesbian marriages and “the transformation of gender roles.” Research is supposed to be scientific, without bias and opinion. That’s not the case with Ms. Drexler’s so-called research. Her bias is striking. In fact, she argues that single moms whether heterosexual or lesbian couples are actually superior to heterosexual couples in raising boys.
And, as most toxic fems are prone to do, Drexler snubs traditional marriage arguing that it’s preferable for children to be raised by a single mother than by parents who constantly fight. That’s some conclusion. Yes, two people sometimes have conflicts, and it’s impossible for a single mother to have a verbal conflict with herself. This doesn’t appear to be sound research.
Here’s another pearl of wisdom from Drexler. She claims these new maverick moms are “producing a new and vastly improved understanding of manhood and masculinity.” That explains all the man buns on young men these days. Just kidding. This is a serious topic, and nothing to laugh about as it is not Biblical and has serious implications for our culture and society. In fact, let’s hear what Pastor Ken Hutcherson has to say about boys being raised in single mother homes.
Toxic Fems are Vulgar
It seems to me that so many of these feminist issues could be solved amicably by applying the word of God. Unfortunately, however, feminists have become hyper aggressive, loud, foul-mouthed, vulgar, and abusive, somehow believing this will change people’s minds about their issues. Let’s listen to a few examples of this. We’ll start with Ashley Judd, actress and toxic feminist.
I don’t know what to say here folks. This is the epitome of toxic feminism. Why must these women wear hats that mimic female genitalia? They will tell you their power is in their vagina. What? Really? I could understand if someone said their power came from their intelligence or their ability to debate or their wisdom. But their female parts? This is the type of stuff that would get you committed to a loony bin a few decades ago.
Toxic feminists also seem to believe that they are taking some kind of power they believe men have enjoyed for generations by swearing and being as vulgar as men. This notion has even reached the ranks of our members of congress. Listen to Democrat Senator Kirsten Gillibrand, who recently announced her intention to run for president in 2020, discussing her concern that if members of congress aren’t helping people, they should go home. It’s only 6 seconds folks, so listen carefully. And, by the way, the word she uses is bleeped out. You just hear the first consonant.
That’s right, friends, a sitting senator just dropped the F bomb. People listening to her didn’t gasp and were not appalled. In fact, they cheered it. You have to ask yourself, what’s the world coming to?
She’s not alone, folks. We have a new member of congress from Michigan who is also a Muslim. And she is as loudmouthed and vulgar as Gillibrand. Here she is telling a story to her supporters involving her young son. This is Representative Rashida Tlaib speaking.
Yep, you heard right. She not only told the crowd she was hoping to be part of a congress that was going to impeach the President whom she refers to as a motherf—er, in her retelling of the story, she explains that that’s what she had said to her son. I don’t know much about the Muslim faith, but I would guess that there is a certain expectation for cleanliness of speech. After all, why is so important for Muslim women to dress modestly if when they speak they spew out vulgar and crass language. It just doesn’t make sense.
Let’s see what God’s word has to say on the topic. Ephesians reminds us to “Let no unwholesome word proceed from you mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.” Moreover, Exodus 20:7 states, “You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain, for the Lord will not leave him unpunished who takes His name in vain.” And finally, Matthew 12 weighs in with this, “But I tell you that every careless word that people speak, they shall give an accounting for it in the day of judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” I think that’s quite clear. God will hold us accountable on judgment day for the words we have used. That’s enough for me. How about you?
The Truly Ridiculous
Let’s switch gears now. Has anyone noticed how toxic feminism has entered the realm of the truly ridiculous? I have a son who works in the IT department at a university on the west coast. He has to keep his mouth shut most of the time and keep his thoughts to himself, but he sends me images of things he sees on campus, and we discuss the inanity of some issues near and dear to the Women’s Studies department at the university. One such issue is fat pride and the hope for a fat uprising by all, shall we say, women of considerable girth. You might have noticed lately the trend to see plus sized female models gracing the covers of notable fashion magazines. I’m not a man and would not dare to speak for them, but I can’t believe most men would find these images appealing. But, that’s the idea, isn’t it? Feminists don’t want to appeal to men. They actually hate men.
Another absurd feminist idea is that air conditioning in offices is sexist. I don’t even know where to begin. An inanimate object does not have feelings or intellect, thus it cannot be sexist. But let’s listen to writer Radhika Sanghani try to argue the point.
You know folks, I and some of my friends have experienced work situations where the air conditioning is quite cold. But, as thinking and rational human beings, we all brought in our own mini heaters to put near our feet under our desks. Problem solved. There are so many serious problems facing our country and the world, yet feminists focus on the absolutely laughable issue of sexist air conditioning. It’s easy to see why so many people dismiss feminism.
On another note, I believe it was Rush Limbaugh who said, “Liberals achieve the exact opposite of their intended desire.” That is so true, and one fine example is their embrace of the transgender movement. In 1972, Title IX was passed which basically said that schools receiving federal funds could not discriminate in any way regarding gender. I was a sophomore in high school at the time and thought it was great. There previously had only been two sports for girls at my high school: track and gymnastics. A year or so after the passage of Title IX, basketball and volleyball were also made available. And, when I went to college, a whole smorgasbord of sports awaited me. I was thrilled and participated in many.
Fast forward to the new millenia and the secular world’s obsession with and embrace of transgenderism. The feminist movement along with all their marches and protests not only have entwined their issues with that of transgenders, they have featured their struggles as women’s struggles. “So what?” you might ask. Well, here’s the thing. Now, male teens and young men who identify as or who are transitioning into females are allowed to compete in women’s sports. The outcome? Not surprisingly, due to their muscle mass and testosterone levels, they are winning the events and relegating real girls and women to second, third, and fourth places. Is this what women really wanted? Is this what most women truly want today? I don’t claim to speak for all women, but I can guess that most are dismayed by this turn of events.
As always, it’s important to check in with our human instruction manual, the Bible. Genesis 1:27 clearly states, “…in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.” There are only two sexes biologically speaking, not a continuum of genders as activists are now promoting. I don’t believe the Bible mentions transgenderism at all, but it does condemn homosexuality quite explicitly. We find that clearly in 1 Corinthians 6 which states, “Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor people who practice homosexuality…will inherit the kingdom of God.” And finally, Deuteronomy 22 warns, “A woman shall not wear a man’s garment, nor shall a man put on a woman’s cloak, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the Lord your God.”
So, what can we infer? We do not know definitively through science whether or not a transgender’s brain is wired differently than others, but we do know that psychopaths and sociopaths have brains “with severely weakened impulse control.” Does that mean we celebrate their often murderous crimes? Absolutely not. All humans are prone to sin of some kind. For some of us, it is gluttony. For others, addiction to alcohol or drugs. And, for yet others, sexual addiction is a very real impulse. But, we can fight these impulses and addictions, also known as sin, through the power of the blood of our Lord Jesus Christ and through his ever present Spirit who fills us with his fruit, one example of which is self-control.
An Exclusive Club
All right. We’ve covered a lot. What else can we say about toxic feminism? Well, it’s a very exclusive club. It doesn’t include all women. They don’t want you if you are a conservative, a Christian, a pro-lifer, or, more recently, a Jew. If you fit into any of these categories, they don’t view you as a real woman because your ideology does not match theirs. Conservatives and Christians tend to be pro-lifers, while toxic feminists are pro-abortion on demand. The euphemism they prefer is pro-choice.
And, regarding Jews, feminist march leaders like Linda Sarsour, a Muslim and political activist, have made quite clear their enmity toward Israel and Jews in general. She is a blatant anti-semite, yet feminists have made her the face of their movement in recent years. She gained more notoriety when her name was included in Time magazine’s “100 Most Influential People” in 2017. Illogically, she states that her Muslim religion empowers women. Really? This is a religion that forces women to wear a hijab or burka. Additionally, under Sharia law, a raped woman is guilty of adultery. Sharia law does not even recognize DNA testing. A woman raped must produce three male witnesses, and if she can’t, the accused male’s account of events is accepted without question, and in many parts of the Muslim world the female is stoned to death. Listen to this horrifying account that took place in Somalia in 2008:
“On the 27th of October 2008, a thousand spectators gathered in a stadium in Kismayu, Somalia, to witness a 13-year old girl being stoned to death by a group of more than fifty armed Islamist militia men. Eyewitnesses stated that Aisha Ibrahim Duholow was forced into a hole, buried up to her neck, and then pelted with stones until she died. Amnesty International reported that at one point during the stoning, nurses were instructed to check whether Aisha was still alive. They removed her from the ground, declared that she was, and replaced her in the hole for the stoning to continue.
Aisha was executed for ‘adultery’ but her aunt told the BBC that the teenager had in fact been raped by three armed men and that she took Aisha to the police station to report it. A few days later, after two suspects had been arrested, she was asked to return to the station with her niece; to her surprise the girl was arrested.”
Do any of these toxic feminists know this? If they do, how does this conform with wanting more power for women and their adage that “every woman must be believed” when dealing with sexual assault charges?
As with most subjects, I could go on, but let’s wrap this up. In the end, it seems that toxic feminists have decided that men in our society have too much power, and they are going to wrench it away from them in the most abusive, absurd, and vulgar ways they can. However, real power comes from God as 1st Timothy 1:7 reminds us: “For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.” Love and self-discipline are two virtues sorely needed by many of these toxic gals.
Hatred of Men
It also seems obvious that the feminist movement is one of misandry. It’s not surprising that you might not know this word. It means hatred of, contempt for, and prejudice against men and boys. I believe through all the examples I’ve provided today, this notion is unquestionable. I recognized this misandry at an early age and wanted nothing to do with the feminist movement thereafter.
Here’s an example of misandry in action during the Kavanaugh hearings during which Democrat female senators painted every man with the broad brushstroke of rapist and then tried to silence any man who wanted to speak on the issue. Listen now as Senator Maizie Horono speaks for all toxic feminists.
So, if you’re a guy, Senator Horono expects you to shut up and tow the line. Got that?
A Needed Prayer
It’s time to end as we always do with prayer. This world and our culture desperately needs God’s help.
Heavenly Father, you are the Almighty. You are all powerful, the creator of the world, the universe and everything in it, yet you love us. It is unfathomable that you should do so given our sinful nature, but you do. We thank you for sending your son, Jesus, to die an excruciating death on the cross for our sins. We thank you for his miraculous resurrection which provides us with salvation if we will only accept his free gift of grace and change our ways. Lord, many women in our culture are being deceived by the same serpent that ensnared Eve in the Garden of Eden. We ask for you to pull the scales off their eyes, bring them out of the darkness, and help them to turn to you for their salvation and turn away from their sins. You are mighty and powerful so we ask you to consume the darkness in them and bring them into your light. You intended from the beginning that man and woman should work together in harmony and peace, not strife and bitterness. Thank you for the miracle I know you will produce in these women’s lives. We pray all these things, in Jesus’ name. Amen.